It’s just… realizing I was trans was terrifying. Knowing my life is always going to be marred with constant change and having to choose between cutting off close friends and loved ones or self preservation, and not being able to find a single person to ‘look up to’ besides Bailey FUCKIN Jay simply…
My gf said over a decade ago that there was none now and would never be a trans community because the goal of transition is just to live as a person, and the hope is the transition won’t be visible. Hanging around other trans women would not help one be invisible. Unlike lesbians and gays, there is no dating pool aspect to a community of trans women.
I found this sad because there are reasons to have a community other than to look for people to date. Being invisible robs the next generation of role models. It also makes it damn hard to lobby for political causes like the coverage of transition by health insurance and anti discrimination laws for gender expression or identity.
I’m glad she was wrong about there never being a community.